My boyfriend gets mad when I don t listen to him
My boyfriend and I are long distance now. We have been for 3 months and will be for about 6 more months. We talk every single day on the phone, but the problem is I can never hear him well. I don't know if it's him mumbling (although I can hear him well most of the time), or my phone, or me being deaf lol. I just feel like I often can't hear and ask him to repeat. Today he got really upset and said something like "Ahh I am so pissed. You can never hear me and I hate repeating myself all the time." To which I said that it's not like I'm doin it on purpose. He calmed down but still sounded mad for the rest of the convo. He also said that it's just really frustrating that our only way of communication is such a pain in the ass. I don't know what to do, it's frustrating for both of us, and I feel helpless. I really think it's the way he talks because I don't have that problem with others on the phone. But I can't tell him that cause he is 100% convinced it's my sh*tty phone providers, since I also get a lot of dropped calls. What can I do to help this situation? Do you think he really is pissed at me directly, or just at the situation? I mean I know it's frustrating, but this is something I really have no control over :/ I am just so upset cause I don't know how to make our communication better, and I don't want him to get so fed up that he leaves me :( Help!
Boyfriend gets mad because I can't hear him on the phone. HELP! :( Why men don’t listen reason #1: You expect him to agree with you. John Gottman, PhD, is a leading psychologist in the area of marriage and relationships. Over the years, he has researched countless couples and has been able to predict with surprising accuracy which relationships survive and which fail. I know you are busy and may not have time to read his books, so I want to give you a little summary of the red flags that he’s found so that you can see if you are dealing with them in your relationship. By the way – if you do have time, I highly recommend his book “The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work” – it’s a quick and easy read and offers some great information. First off, if you are experiencing any of these ‘symptoms’ of a relationship headed toward disaster, fear not. You have time to reverse your path. Awareness is key – so talk to your partner about your concerns and see if you can do something about it.
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